De-cluttering, organizing and attempting new habits can stir up that inner critic. We are reminded of missed opportunities and mistakes; of things we wish we had done better, or differently, or not at all. Our imperfections and flaws take center-stage.
If you’re thinking that you need to be self critical, then I ask you to assess how well it’s working. Is the inner critic propelling you forward? Bringing out your best? Inspiring you to take action? I suspect not. More likely, it’s holding you back; telling you that success is not possible. Self flagellation just drains our energy away from our goals. If we want to stay focused and move forward, it’s important that we learn how to quiet the inner critic.
Shutting down the inner critic is not easy and for some of us, it may require the support of a counselor or therapist. I don’t have all the answers. My primary goal with this post is to tell you that it’s okay to be compassionate with yourself, and maybe give you a little something to get you started.
Here’s my version of the Golden Rule: Treat Yourself as You Would Hope to Treat Others. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt that you are doing the best you can with the knowledge, skills, resources and energy that you have. Nurture yourself along, just like you would encourage anyone who is struggling or attempting a new skill.
Our best hope for success lies in accepting ourselves with compassion, and moving on.